I mentioned before that I’ve been a bit angry and down about my divorce lately. I think since we are winding down to the end of it, it just sinks in just how much hurt I still have in my heart. I am still bitter that Grayheart continues his relationship with Raggedy Ann. I want to get past it but it’s hard. I’m working on it, though.
The terse relationship between Grayheart really pinnacled yesterday when he snapped and bitched at me when he picked up the kids. We went at it with them as audience and, of course, it really stressed out She-ra. We are usually really good about keeping the peace in front of the kids. We did bad. And I was inconsolable when they left.
I finally decided to call for a truce. The tension and stress is eating away at me. I hate having a contentious relationship with him and I know I started this latest battle. (Mind you, I feel like he started the war.)
So I sent him this text message last night:
And it was well received. He responded with:
“I just read your texts. Truce sounds good. Sorry I snapped at you. We can talk tomorrow.”
Sometimes it takes a bite of humble pie for the right outcome. I instantly felt lighter after I sent the email and even better once the response was positive. I hope we can continue on a good foot. At least it’s a start.
Weekend is here so I’m going to enjoy it. It’s Friday Night Fun for me tonight! Captain is off on a tournament so I’ll be partying it up with the ladies tonight.
Have a fabulous weekend, mi gente! Besitos!
Today’s Mantra: Humility can often reap you the greatest rewards.
At least you two have the ability to communicate! Come up to good ole Indiana if you want to see some good old fashioned bitterness!
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It’s funny. Well, sad actually. I thought of you and your ex. I don’t want that. As I’m sure neither do you. It makes parenting so much more challenging and life just overall stressful.
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Yes it does, it’s tragically hilarious what me ex has turned into.
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Nothing quite like being the bigger person! Good job!
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Thanks! Xo
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It really does make all the difference in the world when divorced parents can work together. The whole debacle is hard enough on kids, why make it exponentially worse?
Even if you have to be the one pointing that out and calling truce over & over, it is worth maintaining a decent parenting relationship for the kids sake. Sadly my ex doesn’t seem to get that and it’s still terrible and stressful for our children two years out.
Lastly (I know this is getting long here), the end of the divorce process does dredge up a lot of weird feelings. Just roll with it; feel them but don’t let them linger. Hang in there.
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Thanks, my friend. I’m sorry to hear your ex (and his family from what I recall) are so foolish and immature. Good luck to you and your troop! Xo
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Sorry, you are going through so much. I feel your pain, girl. Same thing happened to me many years ago but I don’t want the bastard back. My ex-husband ended up marrying the bitch several months after our final divorce. He even denied to my face that he was seeing someone else when we first separated. All I can say is hang in there. Go by your gut feeling. I bleed for the kids as they don’t deserve it. They are an innocent party to the divorce. XOXO Anne
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Ugh. I hate men.
Thank you for the sweet words. It’s nice to hear from you. Xoxo
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What you did was very selfless. I’m proud of you β€οΈ
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Thank you! I’m trying! Xoxoxo
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What a smart and kind gesture. Way to go! Have fun with the ladies!
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Thanks! Seemed like the right thing to do. I see the improvement already in my demeanor and relationship with him.
Xoxo
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Reblogged this on Dream Big, Dream Often and commented:
Meet Divorce With Me!
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Thank you!!!
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Definitely the right (and brave) thing to do. I’m with you on Grayheart still being with Raggedy, it’s going to take a while before you genuinely don’t care one way or another. Meanwhile, take care ! x
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Thank you! It’s hard to “let it go” but I’m going to try to power through. I just have no idea how to even be nice or civil about her. Bleh. Lol
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Judge Judy (sorry) often uses the phrase you should love your kids more than your hate your ex. Otherwise you are a bad parent.
So well done you for being the bigger person
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I’ve never heard this before and I’m really glad you shared with me. She’s right. And I do love my kids more than I hate him. I don’t even hate him, really. So time to put my big girl pants on and move on. π
Thank you for the good advice, kudos and stopping by!
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You are most welcome, my partner has a son from his previous marriage and I know it can be tough
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I hope it’s going well for him… π
Enjoy your week!
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That’s very big of you! I smiled when I read the msg you sent out and that’s a tough one: first having to write that, then the courage (and himility) to hit send! The kids are everything, and you are the bigger person.:)
(Stumbled upon your blog, nice to meet you!)
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Hi Ann! Thanks for this! Really made me smile. Glad you found me. Nice to meet you as well! I look forward to reading up on you! π
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We all have our moments but in the end you handled it all maturely and responsibly and that is all what matters. You are a really goo mother, you did what you thought was in the best interest of your children.
Much love to you,
Zee β€
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Thank you, Zee! I appreciate the support. Xo
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you are most welcome β€
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Been there. Now help my son with his ordeal with this subject. I got him a car so he could have a visitation ability as ex used car and he used scooter. Myah will be 4 on the 21st.
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You know, I haven’t forgotten the words you shared with me about appreciating the new you after a divorce. I hope your son does well through the painful and heavy process and recovers as well as you did.
You’re a wonderful dad for giving him a car to access that darling Myah. π
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Best to keep it civil as possible. I had to go through the false child molestation charges re my daughter was 2-4. They even trained the kid to do things with the anatomical male doll the authorities use. That was 3 decades ago. Still torments me. Never remarried – my new is adult kids and grandchildren.
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Oh my. I’m so sorry to hear. There is nothing that makes me madder than hearing false accusation charges for this and rape cases. It completely waters down and hurts true victims. I don’t blame you for still being haunted.
Grandparenthood is the best, from what I see! Enjoy!
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