A year ago Grayheart moved out. We’d started our separation discussions and plans in September 2014 but he moved out the Sunday before Thanksgiving 2014.
We spent Thanksgiving together as a family and it went smoothly.
For many months, he visited my home nightly (he didn’t have a place he could take them to) and stayed over the nights I would go out (ex. Friday night fun, etc.). It was torture having to see him so frequently and go through the pain of knowing he was enjoying his life with his mistress, Raggedy Ann. But I powered through and knew that the kids were doing well due to the united front.
Fast forward to 2015. Grayheart rents a townhouse and we have separated our lives. He’s a great father and takes the kids twice a week for dinner and now has them overnight every Thursday and every other weekend. The kids are doing really well, all things considered. I’ve taken them to a child psychologist and she’s very happy with their progress.
As for my relationship with him… We have our ups and downs. We get along in a superficial manner and I try to avoid getting into any deep conversations with him. I’m still angry and hurt. Not like I was before but it still lingers. I feel at times like I have things that were left unsaid. I won’t bother going there but at times it gnaws at me.
I’ve been reflecting as Thanksgiving comes upon us and things have changed a lot in a year. But I got through it and am grateful.
So this year, my mom will host Thanksgiving again. My kids will be with me. And my lovely boyfriend, Captain, will be attending. *smile*
And Grayheart asked if he could come by. *frown*
And I said yes. *grimace*
What was I supposed to say?
He has no family here and I would hate to separate him from the kids.
Sigh. You know the saying “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”? Yeah, that’s me. Always me. Lol!
Wish me luck!
Hope all of you have an easy and happy Thanksgiving this year! Lots to be thankful for!
XO
It will be awkward at first, but it will all be just fine! I wish you and your family a happy Thanksgiving!
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Thank you! Same to you!!!
We are all adults. I think (or hope) it’ll be fine. 🙂
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Wow since you and I have been following each other you have made so much progress which is a huge thing to do in this situation!! You sound happy, settled and moving forward! I am so very proud of you. I hope you have a happy and lovely thanksgiving! You are truly an amazing lady!hugs 🙂
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Thank you, Lyn! Progress has been made and I’m happier than I was a year ago. Ups and downs happen, but there are more ups than downs. Thank you for the endless support and love! I think you are amazing and strong and a wonderful woman to have on my side. Happy thanksgiving as well! Xoxo
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I am so happy for you! You deserve every happiness and you are doing such a wonderful thing for your kids! happy Thanksgiving!! 🙂 hugs
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Happy Thanksgiving! Well I guess your ex will have a front row seat to your happiness with the new love in your life. How wonderful! *evil grin*
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LMAO! I’m going to be the smiliest I’ve been in a long ass time around him! 😉
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And I think a little PDA won’t hurt. Lol.
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You’re bad! (I love it!!! Lmao!)
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😉
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What happened to Raggedy Whore? Trouble in the water already?
Awesome job on the co-parenting thing, he still is a king sized anal plug, but sounds like he does a good job playing dad.
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That’s all I can ask for. Shitty husband but great dad. 🙂
Don’t know what’s up with Raggedy whore and i refuse to ask. Love her new name! Lmao!
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I knew it was Raggedy something!
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You have a gift with words! 😉
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I’ll take that as a compliment!
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Hahahaha sounds like my ordeal. I wish you a very happy thanksgiving! Enjoy it!
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I completely thought of you and your legoland trip!! (I just hadn’t had a moment to comment but I get your posts via email.) Good luck to you and happy thanksgiving as well!
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Thanks! It’s going to be alright (or so I’m hoping)
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The best revenge is a life well lived…and making him sit there with your new beau. Bet he won’t stay long. Why isn’t he with Raggedy Ann and her family, by the way?
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You are so right! And I’m doing way better than he is!
Turns out he only spent dessert with us. He did more of a Thanksgiving lunch with Raggedy. So he was with her. I just don’t care, honestly. I’m glad he wasn’t alone on such an important holiday.
How was yours? Did you guys have a nice time? 🙂
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Yeah, we had a low-key day, just the five of us and a couple of friends. Plenty of food though. Glad yours was smooth. 😃
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Happy to hear! Low key is great. Enjoy your weekend!
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You have incredible strength, my dear! I so sincerely hope that you have a most wonderful Thanksgiving!
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Thank you!!! How was your Thanksgiving? I hope it was wonderful for you!
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That was very gracious of you, you have come far. Remember to hold you’re head high, you are the one doing him a favor in an effort to be the awesome mom you are. Happy thanksgiving to you and your lovely family. ❤️❤️❤️
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Thanks, amiga! Hope you had a lovely thanksgiving as well. Did you do anything special with your wonderful mom? 🙂 😘
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Ate like a little piggy lol
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Lol! Me too. Hence why I am currently at the gym trying to fight at least a small portion of it. Or at least feel better about celebrating national leftover day with such damn gusto!
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Oh god I am so bloated LOL
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Enjoy time with your family! The things we do for our kids eh?! xx
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No joke! Lol!
I know you guys do Thanksgiving in October… I had the lovely fortune of spending it in Ottawa last year with my Canadian friends and really enjoyed it. Lots of maple yumminess! Hope the countdown to holidays is going well para ti y la familia! Xo
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Happy Thanksgiving, my blog friend!
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Same to you! What did you get into yesterday? 🙂
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I hope it went all ok 🙂
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It did! My ex (Grayheart) ended up stopping by for 20 min during dessert and hung with the kids. A bit awkward but he was polite to Captain (first time they met) so I appreciate that at least. 🙂 thanks for checking in! Xo
(You don’t live in the U.S., right?)
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No I am in the UK, I hope apart from that awkward bit you had a lovely thanksgiving
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I sure did! And thank you! Xo Have a wonderful weekend!
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It sounds like there wasn’t much drama around Ex for Thanksgiving so hooray! Being foreigner meant that Thanksgiving is not huge for me but I had a pretty awesome Friendsgiving anyways so Double Hooray!
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Thanks! And I’m glad you enjoyed Friendsgiving! 🙂 Anytime spent with friends is a great thing! xo
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This is a nice thanksgiving story and you should be proud of your integrity and being so big about it all. 🙂
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Aw, thanks, Carol! Xoxo
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I really do love your blog, inspires me. On a side note I never get notifications when you have new posts! I’ll swing by and see new entries.
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Thanks, amiga! I’m glad you enjoy. I am not a good writer but it’s been such a great outlet for me. Has helped tremendously with my healing. I’m not 100 yet but working on it!
How have you been holding up?
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Am doing ok, am working on a post about how I feel like I’m living in the twilight zone where husband acts like nothing has happened and we are totally fine !
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People come into our lives and go out of our lives and we do not design a self identity based on what others do or don’t do. You should be so very happy and you are so lucky to have the sharing relationship with him re the children. My ex put me through the sex molestation for my 2 then 3 year old daughter. It was horrible and I won’t go into the details. My son and daughter are in their early 30’s now. They understand how mentally ill is their mother(without my acrimony) and how they can always depend on me. I would focus now on the new opportunities for your new life as it can hold so much promise if you dare step out into it !
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So true. I recall you mentioning this awful experience in your life and I’m sorry you had to have your life scrutinized and shaken in such terrible way. You have good perspective and see the bright side of things so I appreciate your advice. I will be focusing on the good!!! 🙂 thank you!!
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