Life with Captain – 6 months!

I thought I’d give an update on my relationship with Captain since a few people have asked me about him…


Captain and I recently celebrated the sixth month anniversary of our first date.  It blows my mind that this relationship is a result of a good online dating match! It was my first time online dating (he had also only been on a short time) and he was my first date!  I know I’m lucky and that this is not usually the case for most people.  And given how many funny things I came across while I was on Match, I can see why! Lol!

I’ve fallen pretty deeply in love with him and feel very loved and fortunate to be in such a healthy, easy relationship.  He’s been my support during tough times and nurtured the wounds that are still tender.  Captain is divorced and I think that really helps. A failed marriage tends to really put things in perspective; at least for those who have used it as a learning experience.

We have opted to wait a bit longer before he meets my kids.  My little She-ra expressed some serious concerns last month regarding mommy and daddy living apart and ever re-marrying.  It was totally out of left field. She was hysterical and it absolutely devastated me.  Grayheart introduced the kids to his whore, Raggedy Ann, shortly before that and I’m certain that affected her.  (She’s been introduced as a “co-worker/friend.”)  That’s a whole other issue… So, I’m waiting on intros with Captain until I feel it’s right for everyone.

In the meantime, I’m loving this cutesy lovey dovey honeymoon stage!  I really look forward to what’s in store for us.

Thank you to all my peeps that have been so supportive and positive with this relationship and my divorce blues. The good juju sent my way has really helped.  It means a lot. 🙂

xoxo – Besitos!

Keys Life 

I’ve been negligent of my blogging duties… It’s been a fun summer. I’ve had my kids all summer long during the day and Grayheart and I continued or arrangement of splitting weekends. During my “time off” from the kids, I mainly spend it in the Keys with Captain. 

Captain usually rents a house each year with some friends for a month in Key West.  I hadn’t been down there in over a decade and forgot just how much fun it is!

 

90 miles to Cuba!


I am very much into outdoor adventures and grew up around the water. So to be out there snorkeling, boating, fishing, bike riding everywhere and just smelling the salt water… Sigh… It was truly relaxing and restorative.

 

Catch & release of a jack!

 

Snorkeling!

  

Snorkeled around mangroves

  

See the little lemon shark?! Saw lots of em!

 
 

By the docks

  

These lil dudes are everywhere!

  

See the tarpon?

 
  I had a fantastic time just relaxing and came back to my kids in such a good mood. It’s amazing what proper rest can do for your soul!

 

Little Palm Island ferry

  

View at brunch

  

Protected key deer

 
By the way, there’s been a lot going on and I’ve had many ups and downs during the divorce process these last few months. It’s certainly not been all roses and daisies. I’m just sometimes too worked up to even write. I will get back on it but, for now, I’m trying to focus on the positive and things that aren’t so heavy. 

xoxo

Dear Austin, TX – I love you

  
I just got back from an amazing several days in Austin, Texas with Captain.  To say I loved Austin and had a phenomenal time is an understatement.   

I’ve never been to a town where there was such an incredible combination of positive characteristics:  the friendliest people, amazing food, outstanding live music, tons of fun outdoorsy things to do, great college campus, youthful and fresh influence, politics… Jeez, where do I stop?! 

  
Austin is unapologetically and proudly bizarre.  I know the slogan “Keep Austin weird” but it’s just too cool to sum it up as weird.  

   

  

  

   
I won’t bore you with extensive details of the trip but I’ll sum it up by saying that we did Sixth and Rainey street, toured UT, went to a comedy club, rode bike around town galore, ate more red meat and drank more beer in those days than I ever thought humanly possible, watched the largest urban bat population take off for their evening search for food, stayed at the gorgeous Driskill hotel, ate and ate more, watched tons of live local music and had a very romantic time with my man.  It was about as perfect as a getaway could get.

    

    
(Pardon my crappy photography skills.)

Austin, I love you!

PS- I’m still in awe that this is my life post Grayheart.  There is hope after divorce, y’all!

Besos!

Audio

Lana del Rey Concert

Captain and I went to the Lana del Rey concert last night.  We listen to her a lot when we have our sleepovers so when I found out she was going to be in town for the Endless Summer Tour, I immediately bought lawn seats for her concert.  The Coral Sky Amphitheater in West Palm Beach is a really cool place to see a show.

We arrived, ate some yummy food truck tacos, guzzled beer and parked our camping chairs on the lawn.  We, by far, were some of the oldest people there.  Apparently, teens and 20 somethings really love her angst and dark lyrics. (Surprise, eh?)

We had so much fun!  Lana has a great voice and actually sounds better live than she does on her albums.

I was too far to get good pictures on my cell phone but I took a few video clips to have the audio.

She sang a bunch of songs (Born to Die, Video Games, Blue Jeans, Summertime Sadness,  Ultraviolence, etc.) but, naturally, killed it with “Florida Kilos.”  We fell further in love with her (the song is amazeballs) and then she ended her set by bringing down the house with “Off to the Races.”

Awesome night! #lanaforlife

Besitos!

Friday Night Fun – Sushi & Sunsets

Just a quickie…

  
Captain and I went to dinner at Kaiyo Japanese Grill in Islamorada.  The food was phenomenal!  We then sat by the pier at Morada Bay with some drinks as we watched the sun set.

 
Sometimes I have to pinch myself because I can’t believe how lucky I am. A year ago I was in shambles and now I’m in the most romantic relationship I’ve ever been in and feel incredibly independent.  My life is far from perfect but I’m really working on focusing on “me” since this process started.

  
Besitos y amor to you all!

NKOTB Concert

I’ve been a terrible blogger but I certainly have had lots going on.  I just haven’t had the time – or sometimes desire – to focus on a good post.  

In the meantime, here are some pictures of the NKOTB, TLC and Nelly concert I went to a week and a half ago. My girlfriend got us front row seats and we had an AMAZING time!!!!

(Yes, I still have love for my New Kids on the Block!)

  
   

 

We jammed like it was the 90s all over again!    I’ll try to post some video clips later.
Besitos!

 

Weekend in Rewind – The Keys & Kid Races

It’s been a bit since I’ve done one of these!  Here’s my weekend in rewind!

Friday Night Fun – I drove to Islamorada to see Captain.  He had some friends in town that were renting a mansion in Marathon.  They invited us to stay the night and we gladly agreed!  I won’t even begin to bore you with details on how awesome the place was but we certainly had an amazing time partying and I got on soooo well with his friends.  

Here are some pictures of the place. Felt like paradise.  

 
I love going to the Keys.  It is so wonderfully relaxing and feels like vacation each time I go visit.  And being with Captain is like living a dream I haven’t quite woken up from. (I know, I’m so pathetically sappy these days!)

I will still recovering from my fun by Saturday so it was a simple evening with my kids and family.

And then Sunday was all about family and fitness! My family participates in something called “Healthy Kids Races” which promotes running as a healthy lifestyle activity to combat childhood obesity.  This was the last race of the series and there was a big party and a parents’ race.  This mommy right here got 3rd place in the 1 mile race! 🙂

  

Fun times! 

Rugged Maniac! 

I did the Rugged Maniac race in Dade City, FL on Saturday… and I had a freaking awesome time!!  It’s a 25 obstacle 3.5 mile race that you can do individually or with a team.  I partnered up with a team of friends and went for it!

Here are some of the obstacles from the race! (Pictures are from the site since I didn’t have a camera on me.)

  
      Let me just say that this was my first obstacle race and I rocked it!  I ran, jumped, climbed, grunted, swung, swam, crawled or pushed through each of the obstacles! It was incredibly fun to do with my team and I am soooo amped to do another one in the near future!  (I was a complete wet and dirty mess after the race!)

Here are some random shots before and after the race!  

   

  

   

Overall, the race was fun, it was a great bonding experience with friends and I was really proud of my accomplishment.  I felt strong physically and mentally.  I am currently searching for the next one I can participate in.

Please share your experience with any obstacle/mud races you have done! I’m curious as to the other ones out there (Spartan, Tough Mudder, etc.) so let me know your thoughts!

Saturday’s Mantra:  They don’t call me Athena for nothing! 😉

Mother’s Day Recap

I hope you all had a wonderful Mother’s Day! 

My mother’s day was quite nice.  The kids made me breakfast in bed.  Since they’re only 3 and 6, Grayheart came over and helped them in this endeavor.  My little rugrats then presented me with a cute card and necklace that has their names inscribed on it.  (I love it!)  I was surprised to see that Grayheart, also, gave me a card and some chocolates.  

 
I thought it was a sweet gesture and he was thoughtful with what he wrote.  I’m a damn good mom and I’m glad he recognizes it.  

He left shortly after breakfast and we didn’t talk much but he gets a point for effort.  This is actually the second card he’s gotten me this year.  (I don’t think I mentioned that he got me a birthday card in April.  Not much was written but it was a nice move.)  His birthday is now coming up this week…I guess the question is should I get him a birthday card as well?  

The rest of the day was spent with my wonderful mom, grandmother, kids and rest of my family.  We had a lovely homecooked brunch.   I relaxed and did pretty much nothing most of the day.

Captain came to visit after the kids went to sleep that night.  He brought me sushi and we had our own little picnic.  And oooweeee! Did I get a rockin present that night!  Something to do with whipped cream and dessert… 😉

To all my mommy blog friends out there, I hope you were treated like the queens you are!

Mother’s Day Mantra:  I am Wonder Woman.  I deserve a day off from saving the world! 

  

Last Week in Rewind – Tampa, Spring Break & More Captain

My best friend, Beth, lives in Tampa and recently had a baby.  Unfortunately, there were some complications during the labor and with the baby’s health.  Beth is originally from Miami and does not have family in Tampa.  So as she was recovering from her C-section, I went to Tampa to help her with the daily activities she could not take care of.  What did this mean?  I was Beth’s bitch. 😉

Last week was Spring Break in Miami for public schools.  Rather than take the kids with me, Grayheart stayed with them in Miami.  He’s been traveling so much lately that it kind of was a good way for them to spend quality time together.  Plus, he gets a taste of what I go through on a regular basis!

Prior to my visit to Tampa, I made a detour, headed South and stayed the night with Captain.  When I arrived, he had a lovely bottle of champagne and fresh fruit waiting for me.  We had a nice, casual outing at a burger joint and then hung out at his house.  Needless to say, I needed no caffeine for my drive to Tampa that next morning since I was on such a high!  (Soooo worth the extra hour out of my way!)

The week in Tampa consisted of dropping Beth’s older kids off at their elementary school and then heading over to the NICU to be there with her newborn.  Although it’s pretty mundane to write about, it was a really nice week.  I was able to bond with my best friend during the delicate time, see the baby and spend time with my niece and nephew.  By the end of the week, the baby was doing incredibly well and the hospital staff was floored with his recovery.   (As of today, baby has gone home and is doing very well!)

When I returned from Tampa, Captain came to visit me at my house the night after my arrival.  It sounds so crazy but I tucked the kids into bed, shut their doors, put up the child safety gate to block them from escaping that part of the house and then played hostess once everyone was fast asleep.  I then had the opportunity to greet him with champagne, strawberries and a candlelit bedroom… He left before midnight and the kids continued to sleep soundly in their rooms.  I felt like a sneak with my little at-home rendezvous but what’s a girl to do when she’s limited on babysitting options?

As a side note, I did “hide” my Match profile (a cautious deliberate step prior to deactivating the account) and I found out Captain ended up cancelling his service.  =)   Seemed like a nice move in the right direction.

This Week’s Mantra:   I have decided I’m going to own being a MILF!!! 😉