Growing up, we watched Sesame Street. There was a song that went something like:
Oh, who are the people in your neighborhood?
In your neighborhood?
In your neighborhood?
Say, who are the people in your neighborhood?
The people that you meet each day.
Nowhere there do I see that your ex-husband should be the people in your neighborhood. 😑
I nearly had a heart attack when my 9 year old daughter mentioned something about Daddy checking out a house for sale in the next cul-de-sac. They toured an open house on my block!!
Made me sick to my stomach. Want to throw up, queasy, oh hell no, kind of sick.
Sometimes I ask myself how it can be fair that you can still have to see someone you cannot stand on such a frequent basis? If Grayheart could just consistently be nice or normal (or just consistent) then I wouldn’t have to want to punch him in his smug face so often.
Don’t exes want to avoid each other? I don’t want to see him more often than I have to! No one loves their kids enough to want to move 5 houses away. Just leave me alone, dude.
So I asked him about it. Claims they stopped by on a whim just for fun while they happened to drive by. That there’s no way he could even afford a house in the neighborhood. I’m calling bullshit. He can’t afford it is right. But that it was a chance thing? Nope. I think he’s just trying to mind-f*ck me. Make me crazy.
And it’s almost working. Almost.
I don’t know the whole situation of course but if you can live in the same school district, in the end it will actually reduce the time’s per week you have to deal w the ex. And helps make transitions easier on the kids. So while not ideal in some ways, the reality is once you have kids, the divorce is never over. Best case scenario you peacefully and cooperatively coexist for the kiddos sake. It will pay off in spades later for all involved.
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Thanks for the advice and positive outlook. Luckily, we currently live 10 minutes from each other and have a perfect setup. Have been doing it for over 3 years now. We coparent fairly peacefully but I sure as hell do not want to see his nosey self every time I walk out my door. My home, my neighborhood, my area, etc, should be respected. He has trouble with boundaries. Lol
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Yikes! A little too close for comfort, that’s what that would be. I don’t have an ex-wife, but if I did, i sure as hell wouldn’t want her 5 houses from me! 😃
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Exactly! He’s 10 minutes away now and it works out quite well. Close enough to not be an inconvenience and far enough to not run into him while I’m checking my mail!
By the way, how was Italy???!!!
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Hahaha! Not sure 10 minutes away would be far enough for me. But I get what you’re saying about convenience. As for Italy? What can I say? It was fantabulous! Weather was perfect, sights were amazing, loved every minute of it. Amsterdam was awesome too! I could move there tomorrow! 😃
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Perfect weather sounds a faraway dream right now with how hot and rainy it’s been! Glad you loved it all!
And, seriously, Amsterdam is incredible. Every part of it. The people, the sights, great diverse food options, etc. Sigh.
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It was great, and was like another honeymoon, without boys in tow. But, I can’t wait to take them with us next time. Planning to go back next year with them for fall break. They’ll live it, and are now old enough to appreciate it. 😃
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Woohoo! Sounds perfect. And you’ll know the lay of the land to be able to make the most of it while leading them around. 🙂 One of my most favorite memories of all time is a bike ride I took throughout the city and farmland there. Absolutely freeing and beautiful.
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It’s terrific, isn’t it? Florence is such a walkable city, which is right up my alley. Amsterdam too. I love cities like that. By the end of the week, I felt like I was familiar with 90% of the city. Can’t wait to go back. 😊
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There goes the neighborhood 😜
3,000 miles from my ex works out just fine.
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Lol! Well said! 😉 Your arrangement sounds perfect. Time to ship mine off! Lol
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Deep breaths. The universe is on your side.
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Lol, thanks, Jay. It sure is. I need to remember that. 😘
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Hey girl! It’s “When Doves Fall” remember me?? Despite this odd occurrence, I’m glad to see you’re doing well. I shut down my divorce blog (had to move on!) Anyways, I’m over at https://agirlandherpig.blog/ now if you want to catch up!
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Hi!! How wonderful to hear from you. Was just thinking about you the other day so what a great surprise. Gonna check out your new blog now! Xoxoxo
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BUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! That’s my worst nightmare! I am 1 hour away from my ex and if he ever decided to move closer, I’d pack up and move another 48 miles away from him. That is waaaaaaay to close, even in thought! And even if he were closer, he still wouldn’t get our kids more because when his selfishness is turned up high, he forgets about the rest of the world. I need peace in my life and we have it without him being in it!
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Lol! Then you totally feel me! It’s a big ole no! Peace in our lives is what we deserve!
How have you been??? Xo
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I have been really good! Thank you for asking! Life just keeps getting better and better for us, huh? LOL! Absolutely!
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Yippeeee!!!!!
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Whoa. I hear parents want to be near the kids but that’s tight for a non amicable break up
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Lol, I guess I shouldn’t consider it non-amicable. We are in a good place. But we are divorced for a reason! He drives me nuts and I don’t want his nosy ass all in my business!
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Complete dick move, he knew the kids would leak it to you. They are exes for a reason and still think they have some kind of “upper” hand on us like we would never survive without them.
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Mind fuck. Almost got me. But I got my mind right soon after. Lol
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Always a chess game with the cheating ex, they think we actually give a shit about them still. No, we could care less if you swallowed gasoline and ate a lit match. But hey we have kids together so I’ll wait until they are grown before I suggest this. 🙂 Rock on sister!
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Lmao! Quite the description!
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I’ve been told I’ve have a way with words at times :), a judge never found it funny, but hey fuck family law!
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