I’m late on this…
Captain spent New Year’s Eve and day with me and the kids.
We had dinner together, lit sparklers and watched a movie together. The kids had a great time and it was a nice, easy evening. It was one of the first times Captain had spent a lot of time with my children. (We usually keep it at a couple or few hours at a time to not overwhelm anyone.)
The kids really like him. He’s sweet and playful with them and he’s their shiny, new toy. Spending a couple of days for long periods of time really went over well with them.
A couple of days later, my daughter (6 yr old) – out of nowhere – walked into the bathroom and expressed concern about me being divorced from her dad. She lamented that she was worried for me, that I’d be alone, etc.
So I tried to reason with her and explain that even if I was single, I’d never be “alone” because I always had them and my other family and friends. That didn’t work. She couldn’t put into words that she meant in a romantic way.
So then I tried a different tactic. That one day I’d have a boyfriend and maybe even in the very distant future I’d get married.
I literally saw a lightbulb go off in her head!
“What about Mr. Captain?!” she asked with a sneaky smile.
I was semi prepared for this.
So I explained that Captain recently asked me to be his girlfriend but that I wanted their input before I responded to him.
We gathered my 3 year old son – this is all in the bathroom, by the way – and I rehashed what I discussed with her.
They were delighted to give their opinion. They excitedly supported the idea and wanted to call him right away to say “yes!”
So once we were done and ready, we piled into the car and called Captain on Bluetooth. (I’d already text him to prepare him for the call.)
The kids practically yelled it out before I did but we were all happy to share with him that I accepted. I would now be his girlfriend.
Smiles all around… 😊
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It’s nice now to be able to hold hands and show affection in front of the kids. Maybe this time ’round they’ll actually see what a healthy and loving relationship looks like. ❤️
That’s awesome. I love that pic about them finding you on a bathroom break! That’s funny! 😃
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Lol! I found that pic and cracked up because it so sums up kids and bathrooms! 😉
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Mine find me no matter where I try to hide. They have some sort of radar!
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Lmao! So true! Spidey sense indeed!
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This warms my heart, reminds me of conversations I had with my daughter after I split with her mother. It’s like kids have an extra spidey sense to protect the parent that was wronged :).
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Thanks, Gary. They sure do. They have the cure for us. Always. 🙂
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What a wonderful way to raise a child’s self esteem … Regardless of their age they sense the loss their parents experience, and to be included in the decision of who will fill that space I am sure will have a lasting effect on their ability to love from the heart … You done good mama!
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Thanks, gfs… This was very kind of you to say. I feel like even though my kids are so young, we are a really close little family. 🙂 Your words make me smile. Thanks for this.
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That has to be quite a relief for you. Smiles all around, indeed! 🙂
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Thanks, Rob! Relief is an understatement! Lol! Pleasing kids can be quite an undertaking!
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I am sooooooo happy for you!!!!! This put a huge smile on my face 🙂 love it!
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Thanks! I really appreciate the support. As a fellow mom, I know you get it. Xo
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Aww how cute! This is wonderful 😊
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Thanks, KC! They’re my lil cuties. 🙂 xo
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My daughters are waiting for that day. My oldest asks all the time when I’m gonna get a new husband and daddy for them. I just tell them that God is gonna make it happen. And it will! And it will be an awesome moment just like yours!!!
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Your daughters are incredible. They love you obviously very much and know what an amazing mama you are. God has his plan and the moment will be perfect when it happens. I know your girls will be cheering you on. I can’t wait to read about it when it does! Xo
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This is wonderful! I am so happy for you! How blessed you are to have such wonderful, sensitive children. Hugs.
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Thanks, L. I hope they stay like that forever! Lol!
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So do I! Happy endings do happen (or so I’ve heard.) Sending the best wishes and hopes!
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Thanks, my friend. Same to you! Xoxoxo
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This is beautiful! Your kids are awesome, and so are you.:-)
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Thanks, Deb. *shy smile* xo
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You seem to have such a lovely way with your children – even including them, and not being selfish in putting your needs first 🙂 I’m sure that they are very loved.
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Thanks so much! Parenting can be so challenging but I am really trying to do right by them. They’re great kids so I think I’m really lucky. Thanks for the really thoughtful words. Makes my morning. 🙂 xo
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You’re most welcome 🙂
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This is so very wonderful that the kids are involved in this. It seems they and you are very happy – and this makes me happy too! 🙂
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Thanks! Very sweet of you to say. I always hear that happy mommy = happy kids so I hope that continues to be true. XO
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Sounds like an all around parenting win! Of coarse those kind of conversations happen in a bathroom… When your an awesome mom!!!
You sound happy ❤️
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Lol! Thanks! It wouldn’t be a quality convo if it didn’t happen in questionable surroundings! 😉
I’m definitely happier than I was a year ago. A few ups and downs but the downs are far between… I’m very grateful that time really does wonders. Xo
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Bravo. Happy for you. And I remember how it feels to crave a bathroom break in peace. Nice post.
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Lol! Thanks!
Kids have radars for these kind of things… When you want to pee, when you’re on the phone, trying to sleep, etc, etc.
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I know. lol Nice post.
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Aww what a lovely read! So very happy for you lovely lady!
I have 3 kids 5 years and under – I don’t even bother to shut the bathroom door because really what’s the point! Lol
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Thanks! Made me happy to see the kids so open to him being a part of my life. It’s incredible how well they’ve adapted. A year ago I was terrified they’d be screwed up and here they are supporting me being loved. I’m proud of them. 🙂
Bathrooms = no privacy! What’s the point of a lock or even a door when you have kids, right?! Lol!
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I am in awe of how well you handled that! (I work only with dysfunctional families, so I am maybe a bit “easily impressed” by functional peopl sometimes, hee hee, J/kidding).. I do believe it was great that you talked to the kids and made sure that they were not uncomfortable in any way… Shows you are a great mother! And I do wish you the best of luck with the new “captain”. 🙂
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WOOHOO! Loved the way this became their decision. Well played, Mama!
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Thanks!!! I was so relieved it had the outcome it did. You never know with kids! Especially with my sassy brood. lol! 😉
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Clearly, they’re good judges of character then 🙂
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This is so cool!! Great way to address this relationship and include them!! ❤️
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Thanks! Learning as I go… Lol! 😉 xo
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I love this post (and know that I’m 40% jealous, since you go to the keys often.) I will one day maybe go through this with my gf. She has a 3 and 6 year old. Mona and her husband have not yet physically separated yet and it’s tough. But I’m glad your kids are accepting and thrilled. Sounds like he’s a good man.
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Thanks, Rex. I have your back when you go through this. Divorce is such a tough thing and it’s even more challenging with kids. My kids are the same age as Mona’s so it’ll be very similar. I’m assuming Mona and their dad are very dedicated to their kids… and you are so incredibly supportive; I know you will do everything possible to help navigate the situation properly. xo
(Lol @ the keys comment! Haha!)
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This is great news! 🙂 I’m glad you found someone who’s nice to not only you but your kids too. That’s the way it should always be. Congratulations! I’m happy for you and your kids.
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Thanks, Amaya! Very sweet of you to say. Xo
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🙂
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How lovely! This was so sweet. I want a boyfriend too 😃
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Thanks, Caroline! We can share him… Lol! 😉 xo
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OMG lol generous offer!
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This is just the absolute limit in cuteness, you know that don’t you?
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You’re so funny! Thanks for saying this. They were pretty cute with the whole thing. 🙂
How are you recovering? Btw, you had me laughing my ass off with your Star Wars reviews. I’ve been meaning to comment but just know I love getting your emails in my inbox. Y’all are such a funny family. Xo
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I love that you included your children in the decision. And HUGE congrats! xoxo
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Awww this is really a cute story. It’s good they take it like that.. sometimes it’s a lot more drama. I’m happy for you !
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Thanks! 🙂 I’m so grateful that it’s gone the way it has. Many others aren’t so lucky so I thank my lucky stars often! 🙂 xo
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Wonderful! So happy for you as you enter into a new journey!
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Thanks! I appreciate the support! 🙂 xo
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Made me smile so much 🙂
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Thanks!! 🙂
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That was BRILLIANTLY done.
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Aw, thanks! Kids happy = mommy happy! Lol! 😉
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I remember the whole sneaking round the kids, not holding hands or peck on the cheek
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lol! Yeah… Certainly awkward to try to be so restrained!
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And its the simple things like walking along and you suddenly find that you are holding hands and the awkwardness of unholding before the kids see
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Lol! Yep! Soooo true!
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wow! how great. You’ve got such a blessing in your kids. So damn right, divorce can be really tough, and especially with kids, but your experience has really made a beautiful and inspiring exception. how lovely.
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Thanks, my friend. Kind of you to say 🙂
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Congratulations! Finding love and starting over must be difficult. I think you are handling it very well.
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Aw, thanks! Sweet of you to say. It’s been challenging but I’m finally above water! 🙂 thanks for the support! Xo
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Oooh this is sooo sweet !! Your kids are gems! I’m so happy for you ❤ 🙂
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Thanks! That’s a nice description… Gems! I like it! That’s how I feel about them, too. ☺️☺️☺️
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Of course you do, they are so precious 🙂
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Aww, how nice to include the children.
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Thanks! I’m really happy they like him so much! Whew!
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