I’m late on this…
Captain spent New Year’s Eve and day with me and the kids.
We had dinner together, lit sparklers and watched a movie together. The kids had a great time and it was a nice, easy evening. It was one of the first times Captain had spent a lot of time with my children. (We usually keep it at a couple or few hours at a time to not overwhelm anyone.)
The kids really like him. He’s sweet and playful with them and he’s their shiny, new toy. Spending a couple of days for long periods of time really went over well with them.
A couple of days later, my daughter (6 yr old) – out of nowhere – walked into the bathroom and expressed concern about me being divorced from her dad. She lamented that she was worried for me, that I’d be alone, etc.
So I tried to reason with her and explain that even if I was single, I’d never be “alone” because I always had them and my other family and friends. That didn’t work. She couldn’t put into words that she meant in a romantic way.
So then I tried a different tactic. That one day I’d have a boyfriend and maybe even in the very distant future I’d get married.
I literally saw a lightbulb go off in her head!
I was semi prepared for this.
So I explained that Captain recently asked me to be his girlfriend but that I wanted their input before I responded to him.
We gathered my 3 year old son – this is all in the bathroom, by the way – and I rehashed what I discussed with her.
So once we were done and ready, we piled into the car and called Captain on Bluetooth. (I’d already text him to prepare him for the call.)
The kids practically yelled it out before I did but we were all happy to share with him that I accepted. I would now be his girlfriend.
Smiles all around… 😊
It’s nice now to be able to hold hands and show affection in front of the kids. Maybe this time ’round they’ll actually see what a healthy and loving relationship looks like. ❤️