I have been working daily and come home exhausted so hitting the computer is often the last thing I want to do. And my thumbs kill me if I try to write an entire post from my phone! So I’m going to write a mini update on what’s going on in my life. I apologize in advance if it’s not the highest caliber of writing or the most visually appealing post.
- It’s been a birthday bonanza! We’ve celebrated She-ra, me, my mom, my grandfather’s and Captain’s birthday all in the last three weeks! It’s been an absolute blast but I’m SO over cake!
- Grayheart and I are still on amicable terms. I know he’s still seeing Raggedy. I just don’t care. We’ve been working on our divorce paperwork and the only thing that really has me on edge is the custodial arrangement. He wants 50/50 and I am terrified of that notion. I suppose it’s a good problem to have… A father that adores his kids. But it’s hard to think I wouldn’t have my kids as frequent as I have them now. He seems to be open now to different possibilities after doing more research on custody scenarios for such young children.
- Captain – If there was anything in my life right now that could be described as perfect, he would be it. We’ve seen each other every 2-3 days, had amazing dates (dinners, paint notes, even just sitting in Krispy Kreme parking lot), gone away for a two day trip together to Disney World and Islands of Adventure (where he asked me to be his girlfriend), and last night he told me that he loves me. This man is so incredibly sexy and attentive and genuine and kind hearted and loving… I just cannot believe that I’ve been blessed with a man this wonderful to me. And I actually really really care for him back. It’s such a nice, easy affectionate relationship. I think I love him as much as I am capable of right now. I know he’s worried that he is a rebound relationship for me. I would like to think this is not true and that we are just incredibly lucky to find each other. I suppose only time will tell. I can say, though, that I am the happiest I’ve ever been with a man. And it’s an amazing feeling.
- I’ve not been running more than once a week so I feel like crap. I’m gonna get back on track though. It’s such a yucky feeling and exercising really helps mind, body and soul.
- My old job (in real estate) contacted me today inquiring as to whether or not I’d be interested in returning in a part time capacity. Not sure how I feel about this since I have virtually no details. I will do lunch with my old boss next week and learn more.
So there you go! I’ve included some pictures of our dinners and outings. (Feel free to inquire about any of these.). Lots of stuff in the last 3 weeks. I know that I’m incredibly lucky and have much to be grateful for.
Today’s Motto: I’m loved and lucky. And I really feel like I deserve it. It’s so nice to be in this phase of life rather than where I was 9 months ago. ❤️
Glad things are going well! Just please consider that the primary reason he wants 50/50 custody is so that he doesn’t have to pay child support, whereas the close-secondary reason is to be with his children.
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I definitely thought about that. Certainly is less costly for him to pay me out of it’s 50/50.
Thanks for looking out for me 🙂 xo
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I’m so glad about you and Captain. He seems dreamy and the right thing for your life. I’m cheering for the two if you 🙂
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Thanks, KC! I feel like I’m in a dream! The man seems perfect (for me) and I’m just enjoying every second of it. 🙂 thank you for being my cheerleader! Lol! Xo
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Love and boyfriends and trips? Oh my!!!! Sounds wonderful!
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Ain’t that crazy?! It’s been fantastic! Thanks! I’m all giddy these days… Pretty crazy! I hope you are well! Xo
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Yes you deserve it! As for the divorce and custody if you have a father willingly involved in the children’s life 50/50 is the only way to go. I’m on the other side of that coin, IT BLOWS! Remember it took both of you to create the child and he has every right to see them as much as you do. If he’s proving to be a good father you can’t deny him that right, this is the shitty part of divorce :(. That is frigging awesome you and the captain have definitely found a spark. Enjoy the ride! Worry about the serious stuff when the time comes.
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Thanks, Gary! I certainly don’t want to keep him from the kids. And I’m blessed he is a great father. I know we’ll figure it out. Divorce sucks.
Thanks for well wishes with captain! I’m certainly enjoying the ride! 🙂 xo
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Happy Birthday! How could anyone be ‘over cake’?!?!? hahaha! Nice to read your update. Sounds like your life is taking a different path, and for the better 😀
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Aww, thanks! It really is wonderful to be having such fun after such a tough time.
I looooove cake but so many birthdays in a week is crazy! Lol! Maybe I try a gluten free cake next time? One of your masterpieces? 🙂
Xo
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I don’t often bake cakes, unless it is a special occasion, actually, otherwise I would just gobble it all up! haha! Perhaps I should start on a new Bundt cake recipe! 🙂
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Please do!!! 🙂
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hahaha! Another project ….. 😀
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Such great and happy news (apart from the cake overload ;-)) !! YAY !!
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Thanks, Gin! It’s been a very fun adventure! 🙂
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Athena, I’ve nominated you for The Creative Blogger Award! If you accept, please post an announcement like I have in the following link and follow the five rules mentioned. Appreciate your posts! http://mitchteemley.com/2015/04/30/im-creative-no-really/comment-page-1/#comment-1798
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Thank you so much, Mitch! I am so flattered and honored!! 🙂 I will check out what I need to do. Thank you again for the nod and support!!!
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Sounds like your happy.
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Sure am in a much better place, thank you for noticing! 🙂 xo
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Woo hoo! Sounds like you are in a great place. Take it a day at a time and just ENJOY!
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Thanks!! I so am!! 🙂 xo
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YAY! for birthdays and love!
50/50 custody can work. Also, if he’s got the kids 1/2 the time and is paying to feed and clothe and house them when they’re with him, then he’s not keeping anything from anyone, right?
I know not seeing the kids every day is not what you signed up for. Believe me, I get it. But you may find that there are advantages, too. I’d be happy to share my experience with it via email if you like.
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Would love you to share your experiences!! 🙂 thank you!
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