OMG!
I had the BEST first date experience with Captain of Match!
Let me back up though and just share how the night started.
Remember my things to do list? Massive fail. My hair was great but the manicurist who did my mani/pedi was blind as a bat and took forever to do my nails. Which set off a chain reaction and eventually caused me to be almost 30 minutes late!
I rushed through my beautification process and threw on make up and got dressed. And smudged my nails in the process. So the very thing that made me late was completely a waste of time because I RUINED it!
I threw everything in my car into my trunk. (I’m afraid to open it for fear of it spitting it all back out at me!) And drove like a mad woman to the place.
I looked nice but it wasn’t my ‘A’ game. It was like my ‘B’ game. And I absolutely loathe being in a hurry. So I was frazzled and nervous as hell when I parked. Terrible first impression if your date is already 25 minutes late. (Mind you, he drove an hour and twenty minutes to see me.)
Our plan was to meet at World of Beer. I felt like it was a safe bet because if it went poorly, we would have our drinks and leave. If it went well, we could continue on with dinner in the area.
The moment I walked up to the beer bar, I saw him seated outside and was floored by how handsome he was! He was cuter than his pictures! Dark hair, twinkly brown eyes, clean and neat appearance… not to mention what looked like a nice, hard bod underneath it all. Swoon!!!
I walked up with a big smile, swinging my hips and let my long hair flow freely so that he could really feel my presence as I walked up. We gave each other a big hug hello and then sat down.
Nerves kicked in!
This is where my foot-in-mouth disease commenced. And my clumsiness. And the freaking inability of mine to not talk with my hands at rapid speed (condition exacerbated with nerves).
I couldn’t at first look him in the eyes because I felt like he was staring and that makes me über self conscious. I busied myself with the menu and was just talking nonsense. In which I kicked the wobbly table as I tried to cross my legs. Teeter totter, teeter totter (when is it going to stop?!). When my drink arrived, I spilled it. Twice. He was actually laughing at me at this point. And called me out on my nervousness! (I’m crimson at this point.). But he kept saying he loved it because it put him at ease.
We chatted and had nice steady conversation. Unfortunately, he did ask about my divorce, which I’m really still separated, and expressed dissatisfaction that I was still legally married. He has been divorced for about 5 years now. His wife cheated on him. He seems to be huge on honesty – which I love – since he was obviously very hurt by the infidelity. We quickly changed topics and moved on to other things.
Very soon into the date, he asked if I was interested in dinner later in the evening. (YES! And dessert…my brain and loins screamed!) We finished our beer at WOB and then stopped by a bar at a nearby Italian restaurant to grab a glass of wine. We were sitting pretty close to each other at the bar so that our legs were touching side by side. I was feeling much more comfortable and chill at this point. I wasn’t knocking down anything or tripping. There was lots of music playing and you all know how I love to dance. There was no dancing but I couldn’t stop from feeling like I was in a groove.
We held hands as we walked to the little Cuban restaurant in the area. We had a great dinner and the convo was flirty and fun. After dinner we walked around the town center (over this adorable bridge in which my heels got stuck in… why was I born with no grace?!) back to the bar at the Italian restaurant and had another glass of wine. At this point we were sitting on the stools very closely facing each other. Our legs were practically intertwined and he was playing with my hair and rubbing my arms. (My ovaries were about to burst from damn excitement!)
Finally, sometime after 1 a.m. he walked me back to my car. We were saying our good-byes and all I know is I somehow ended up pressed against my car as he was kissing me. That probably lasted about 15-20 minutes (I was good; all we did was kiss!) and I felt like I was REBORN! Despite feeling disoriented, dazed and high as hell, I somehow managed the drive back home. I should, also, mention that the moment I got in the car, he sent me a text message that said “you’re amazing.”
Cupid, I’ve been struck.
Sounds like your first meeting went well and there was some attraction/chemistry there. Did he ask you out on a second date or call you later?
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Sure was! While on the date, he asked if I wanted to attend a Heat game with him, as well as referenced future dates together. Then after multiple texts and sweet phone calls over the weekend, he asked for a date for this Wednesday and Saturday! Said that he couldn’t wait all the way til the weekend to see me… sigh! I’m so giddy I’ve barely slept these nights. lol!
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This is fan…tastic. congrats.
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I say go for it girl! Forget your soon to be ex-husband. He doesn’t deserve you anyway.
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Thanks! I sooo am!
I’ve made such progress coping and healing that my view of my ex is very clear to me. He’s the past and not worthy of anything more. xo
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Thanks! I’m looking forward to our next dates… next one is tomorrow night.
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Hey has our mutual friend When Doves Fell closed her blog? I can’t find it
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I don’t know! I’m going to check!
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By the way, DJ’s site is still up. I just checked. https://whendovesfall.wordpress.com/
I was worried when you wrote that!
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She’s not appearing on the “blogs you follow” list where I find here usually
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😦 That’s weird…
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I’m still around!! https://whendovesfall.wordpress.com/
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WordPress unfollowed you for me. That can’t happen. I have to start unfollowing people that I don’t read to fit you in
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How weird?!?!?
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And you’re back on the “followed blog” list now. Even weirder. It appears wp has a 2000 blogs followed limit. I was near it so wacky things start to happen.
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That’s a lot of blogs to follow!!
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I went a bit nuts for a while
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You, of all people. Probably my first “blog friend” ever whom I liked reading up on. Geez. Come on wp
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Thank goodness!
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Greatest feeling in the world! Post divorce finding out you still have “it”, Hope this works out for you but if it doesn’t you know you still have it! So happy for you.
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Thanks, Gary! How Athena Got Her Groove Back… 😉
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How exciting! I’ve been waiting for the follow up blog for days now dammit!! Sounds like it was just dreamy! You so deserve the romance and fun 🙂
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Thank you for the nice words. It really was so perfect. So nice after having such a tough several months. 🙂
(You always crack me up! lol!)
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Awesome! Good luck!!!
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Thank you!!! I need all the luck I can get. Date #2 tonight! 🙂
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Hi Athena! Omg, omg, omg! I’m so excited for you, I just wana give you a hug!
Firstly, congratulations. I think the date went great despite everything because he KISSED YOU FOR FIFTEEN MINUTES. OMG. You know, people don’t do that anymore. They might actually fuck you before they kiss you. You know, ser..okay never mind.
Ahem, anyway. Second, it’s okay. I was late five minutes for my first date and thirty for my second date although I hate being late, I guess it’s alright. He sounds like a nice guy, he didn’t try to get too physical with you on the first date which is good, which means he actually wants a relationship rather than a fling. And he has been cheated on.
Which means at least he will never betray you. I’m sorry, it’s kind of harsh, but it’s good that he values honesty.
When are you guys meeting next??
Good luck with everything!
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Zareen!! I love you for this response! Your energy is just so contagious! Lol! I’ll take your hug any day! 🙂
And yes, he’s been betrayed and understands the level of hurt inflicted with infidelity.
We see each other tonight and then on Saturday. I’m currently at the mall looking for something to wear! Lol!
Xoxo
Can’t wait to catch up on you!!
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Yaaay! I love hugs!
Oooh la la! What are we wearing tonight then? Let me know.
Oh my god, I think you will kill me with suspense. Also, I’m sending you loads of good luck for your date tonight 😀
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Ok! I wore a black tank top, long chain necklace, grey skinny tight jeans and black ankle boots. First thing he said when he saw me was “damn, I forgot how pretty you were!” Woot woot!
We had a great night. And now I can’t sleep. Lol!
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Woah! BLACK ANKLE BOOTS! Woot, woot indeed.
Are u sure he didn’t just melt after seeing you?
No sleep is good. I mean, bad for us (helloo, eye bags ) but it means it really did go THAT well! Yaaaay, I’m so excited for both of us!! ❤
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Me too!! Hopefully it continues to be awesome! We can cheer each other on through this “honeymoon” phase, lol! 🙂 xo
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I hope so too! I’m so excited 😀
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That man kissing and hips pressed against woman’s pelvis situation is aMAZing… the very best part about new loveyness. SWOON – so happy for you!
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Right?!?! I nearly passed out from sensory overload! Lol! Thank you! This part is so fun! Xo
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Lawd girl, sounds like some fine romance! Just remember that even the hottest of Captains…aren’t perfect. While I wouldn’t advise looking for flaws just yet, I would advise you to keep your wits about you!
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Absolutely! I can already see where there’d be potential roadblocks but I’m trying to just enjoy it at the moment. The newness of it is so fun. And he’s so damn sexy. Lol!
I figure no matter what happens with him, it’s a fun start to my new found freedom. I certainly am not ready for a serious boyfriend.
Btw, when I found the picture of the captain’s hat, I soooo thought of you! Xo
Thanks for the great advice! 🙂
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Ah, you gotta love the captain’s hat! I got it at a Yacht Rock concert. They play 70’s and 80’s soft rock music to college kids. So now I’m cooler than I was in the 70’s and 80’s. Who knew?
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Lol! Of course you are! How funny!
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Eeeek! I squealed multiple times reading this! It sounds like a lot of fun and a lot of chemistry. Please keep posting about your dates so I can live vicariously through them!
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Lmao!! Thanks so much! Was a great time and it’s such a relief to think I could actually find chemistry with another person (and hopefully many more other men, lol!).
I will do a new post after tonight’s date! Woohoo!
Xoxo
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Congrats! It sounds like a wonderful date!
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Thanks, rob! 🙂 date #2 tonight… Hoping it’s just as good… Xo
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I can’t wait to read about it. Have fun!!!!!
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An awesome date with an awesome man! Aren’t you lucky! Cannot wait to read more of your dating adventures. You deserve to have some fun, enjoy : ) SWxo
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Thanks, m’lady! It was a great time and he really made me comfortable. Which is nice given the fact I hadn’t been on a date with another man in over a decade!
Thanks for the love! Xoxo
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The header picture and the beginning of the post is simply hilarious ! I can picture the whole process 😉 And then wow, it looks like a fantasy, what a date ! Lucky girl !!! I’m so happy for you, you deserve it !
So, are you going to meet other guy from the dating website ?
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Lol! Thanks! Glad you laughed with me!
I am going to continue to meet others. Don’t want to fall into the trap of getting committed or serious with one guy. Although it kinda feels weird thinking I’d be dating multiple guys. Anyway, don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket if things don’t go well with him. Xo
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The level is quite high, I bet no one will beat the captain 😀
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Sigh… I think you’re right… He’s been pretty dreamy so far. 😉 I’ll be seeing him again on Saturday for dinner and a “full moon” party on the beach. I really can’t wait.
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“full moon” party sounds pretty romantic to me ! *__*
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Lol! Well, if we really get down to it… I certainly am anticipating a romantic evening… 😉
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It sounds like Captain may be the one. Good that you moving on with your life and living in the past. 🙂
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YES!!! Get it girl! That date sounds amazing, I’m SO happy for you!! He sounds great and I love that he was playing with your hair, how sweet! I totally get the clumsy part I get so nervous on first dates (and second and third dates). You absolutely deserve this!
p.s. great writing! You had me laughing and swooning right there with you!
xoxo
dj
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Thanks DJ! What a nice compliment from you. 🙂 it was a great date and my second date with him last night was equally good. 🙂 I’m having fun… Finally! Xoxo
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Sorry, I meant to say not living in the past. lol
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Lol! I understood 😉
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Omg Mujer I couldn’t stop laughing at your descriptive clumsiness! I felt so nervous for you and then when you kissed goodnight, that was like fast forwarding through a romantic movie or chick flick right to the best part…the happily ever after…thoroughly entertaining…I’m so happy for you!
Puede ser el Principe Azul? Quien sabe. xo
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Thanks, chica!!! Lol! I felt like I started on speed and then finished off with a dose of Xanax. 😉
No se todavia si va ser algo serio… pero lo estoy disfrutando!! 🙂 xo
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Love it. Enjoy the moment mamacita 😉
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OMG, girl. I stayed away purposely the other night to see how your second date went with Captain. lol Sounds like another success. 🙂
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Lol! You are too funny! Thanks so much! Another successful date…and another one planned for Saturday! 🙂
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OOOOOOOOOOOOO somehow I missed this post. SOO glad I came by to see how things went! YAY!! When is the enxt date?!!!
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Hi!!!! We’ve had two other dates since and they were fabulous! I need to write about them! Thanks for the excitement!! Woohoo! Lol! Xo
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YAY!!! This is such great news!!
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It may be a good idea not to tell your spouse you are dating now, although he may be. Trust me on this one, especially since you have children involved. 🙂
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I knew I liked you so much for a reason… 😉 I most certainly am not telling him about me dating. I’m not even interested in getting him jealous or playing games. I want him to have zero info on my private life. And I don’t want him to retaliate if he doesn’t like what he finds. xo
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That’s great. I wasn’t trying to be nosy or upset you. I just wanted to give you friendly advice from a women who has been there too! 🙂
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What a great story! I can really relate to your nervousness as well as clumsiness! Good luck for your next date!
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Hi Edwina! Thank you for the comment and wishing me luck! I wish I was a smooth criminal but I wasn’t born cool like that… lol! Glad I’m not the only one that has trouble with grace… lol! xo
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Ha Ha! No you are definitely not the only one. 🙂
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Thanks for liking my post. It’s as if something or someone is saying, “Baby, just hang on there!” Just a weird week.
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Omg Athena. I’m reading through your old posts, started from the beginning. I’ve almost spilt my Coke several times from laughter. You are very funny. And even though you were devastated at first with all this divorce thing, you finally found someone that saw you as amazing. I love that.
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Lol! Aw, thanks! ❤️
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