Yikes. I am actually admitting that I’m going to try online dating.
I was one of those people who swore that I would never date anyone online. That it was for older folks that didn’t have opportunities to go out and meet others at bars, etc. Or for those that were lame and socially impaired. Fast forward thirteen years… I’m that lame person. (Dating has changed SO much since I last was single!) But I’m now finding that online dating is now very socially acceptable but it’s also very convenient!
I am not looking for love online. I do not want a relationship. I’m too damaged at this point and my life is too complicated. But I’m looking for superficial distractions. People to make me feel attractive and wanted. (I’m actually pretty embarrassed to admit this.) It’d be nice to go out on some casual dates and get to know some new people.
This is where I now reach out to you all and sincerely would like to know if you have any experience online dating. I’d love tips, suggestions… anything you’d like to share. Is a Match profile worth the monthly fee? (I really didn’t find anyone I was “wow” over while I was looking.) Tinder? (I’m a bit worried about meeting creepazoids.) Any other sites you like?
Thanks for helping a sista out! 😉
Today’s Mantra: Open yourself to new things. And work on those selfies!
Divorce With Me 
You crack me up, as a four month veteran of online dating all I can say IT’S A WHOLE NEW WORLD IN THE DATING POOL. Online dating is for single folks that have been single in the digital age, I feel like a goldfish in a sea of sharks online. Good luck to you though 🙂
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You couldn’t have described it any better, Gary! Lol!
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I have had limited success with online dating, and zero success with Tinder. Then again I am a guy. I hear for women both can be much different. Feeling attractive is important
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Well, certainly not incentivizing me to spend the money! Lol!
I have never been in tinder. What did you think of it? Why do you think no success?
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Sorry, after I wrote this I realized that I was a downer. Men are typically the hunters on online dating. I hear many women get lots of men sending them messages. Of course this is all depending on how we look, who are we kidding? It’s definitely worth paying for for at least a few months.
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Lol! Not a downer at all. You’re keeping it real!
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I might give it a shot… 😉
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Go got it.
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And hey, a female friend of mine swore she’d never do online dating but signed into eharmony just to shut her friends up. In 3 months she was married and 8 years later is still married and has kids
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You may feel damaged but I’m realizing “who isn’t damaged?”
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Yeah, so true! But I’m definitely not ready for a relationship yet. 😉
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Fair
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AMEN! Rex, you couldn’t have said it better!
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Never been is this pool before. I’ve Tender is crazy popular now! I don’t know kinda brothers are creeping on those sites.
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I know! That’s what worries me!!! 😁
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As a member of the pool for the last four months all I can say is it sucks. Last time I was single you called someone and left a message, pagers were just becoming popular and cell phones came in a suitcase! This modern dating is CRAZY
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Gary! I am nervous, lol! I am soooo with you! Am cracking up at your throwback reference! Cell phones in a suitcase! LOL! 😂😂😂
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I’ve also ventured into this realm (and writtne about it in my blog )… and then left it quickly…. although, I used a free site; I’m told ones like eharmony are better..
best of luck to you!
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Please reference the link to your posts! I’d love to read them as I’m sure others here would too! Lol!
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https://waitingforprincecharming1.wordpress.com/2013/11/14/internet-dating-vs-however-else-you-do-it/
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Can’t wait to check this out!!
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And thanks! I’ll be sure to update you guys as I go through it…
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Don’t go for a free site unless you want to deal with a ton of BS, even the paid sites (I’m on two) their is a ton of BS. Good luck 🙂 Hopefully you find some one who is in a similar situation as you. The “professional” daters (at least from divorced guy perspective) are annoying. The whole “game” “chase” whatever you want to call it just sucks LOL. We are adults now, not in high school!
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Lol! I finally joined match.com so let’s see how it goes! I figured I’m just going to go for casual fun. The minute I sense something is off, though, they’ll get sent packing!
Professional Daters… Go figure… You are so right, though. They need to grow up! Peter Pan syndrome??? 😉
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You’re not damaged, you’re healing! Everyone has baggage; it doesn’t make you damaged goods.
Just had to put that out there.
I haven’t done any online or app dating, but I know one thing is for sure, you’ll find creepers along the way no matter what your method for finding a date is. Just think of it as part of the fun! Everyone is weird in their own way and it’ll take practice and weeding out to find someone who is the “right kind” of weird.
Can’t wait to hear about your endeavors!
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Thanks, kelsie! I guess you’re right. I’ve just never felt so out of sorts and unsure of myself/life. Thanks for putting into perspective. Xo
I signed up for match… Let’s see what kind of funny stories I’ll have to share as I start this process… Lol!
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Tinder is just for sex, you won’t find anything romantic over there. I think the best option would be to avoid free websites. If you have to pay a monthly fee, people are serious. And if the monthly fee is more expensive for men than women, it’s even better. I know so many people who have found a partner and they didn’t use tinder or free websites 🙂
But I suppose if it’s for something casual, go wherever you want : -)
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So funny you say that because that’s what I thought too about Tinder. Then I’ve been hearing people talking about great tinder dates. Either way, I’m staying clear for now. Let’s see! 😉
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I went through this briefly, and met a few nice people. best advice, always MEET them somewhere AKA drive yourself just in case you want to bolt QUICK lol.
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You are so right! I’m already paranoid when it comes to safety so you can be sure I’ll have mase, my own car, meet in a public place and do any research beforehand! I’m the daughter of a cop! 😉
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Ha! Smart!!
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Good luck! :)…In online dating you have to take the good with the bad…I posted a series on my blog : Ten Great First Dates and Missi’s Dating Adventures is all about the worst of online dating. This is where you get to be picky! 🙂
Have fun and I hope you meet a lot of interesting people. 🙂 I look forward to reading about your adventures. 🙂
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Hi Carol! Can’t want to read the series! I’m sure there’s plenty material you had to work with! lol! I’m about one week in and I have some funny stories already! I will be sharing soon!
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Already? I am looking forward to reading them. 🙂
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I’ve never tried Tinder. I tried single online dating many years ago. Never met anyone that made an impression on me or “wow” factor either. Some just wanted casual sex, while others I suspected were married or separated (or involved already). My best advice is to be careful and selective. People recommended eharmony but I heard it is slow-going.
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It’s an interesting process. Certainly a variety of characters on it. Some good, some crappy. Good advice to be careful and selective… 🙂
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